The Art of Loving
Move beyond the myth of "falling" in love and discover how to master it as a deliberate, life-long skill. By treating love as a disciplined art rather than a stroke of luck, you will learn to overcome human isolation and build deeper, more purposeful connections with yourself and the world.
The Theory of Love as an Art
Fromm challenges the notion that love is a pleasant sensation one happens upon. Instead, he argues that love is a skill requiring both theoretical knowledge and consistent practice.
The Fallacy of Being Loved
The Mastery of the Craft
The Problem of Human Existence
At the heart of the human condition is the experience of separateness. Fromm explores how love serves as the only sane answer to the anxiety of isolation.
The Anxiety of Separateness
Pseudo-Unions and Escapism
Mature Love: Union under Integrity
The Anatomy of Love
This chapter breaks down the active character of love, moving beyond passive affection to the four essential elements that constitute a 'standing in' love.
The Paradox of Giving
The Four Pillars of Mastery
The Objects of Love
Love is not a relationship to a specific person, but an orientation of character. Fromm distinguishes between the various directions love can take.
Brotherly and Motherly Love
The Trap of Erotic Love
The Necessity of Self-Love
The Love of God
Love and Its Disintegration
Fromm provides a sociological critique, explaining how the structure of modern capitalism and the 'marketing orientation' make the practice of love difficult.
The Marketing Character
The Automated Human
Pathological Forms of Love
The Practice of Love
Knowledge without practice is empty. This final chapter outlines the personal discipline and character traits required to actually live the art of loving.
The Discipline of the Soul
Overcoming Narcissism
Faith and Activity
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